How To Stop SMS Fights

My article in oneindia.com  :   http://www.boldsky.com/relationship/love-and-romance/2013/how-to-stop-sms-fights-033405.html

A face-to-face quarrel is far better than an SMS fight. Avoiding SMS fights are important because predominantly harsh words and languages are used when one need not have to see the other's reaction. At the same time, another important point to be kept in mind is that you are giving a clear chance for the other person to keep a record of your thoughts and words. As SMS goes as a record, it can be used at any later time as evidence of your character and it can always do harm to your relationship. In case if you find that you are about to start a fight through SMS, you can choose one among the following ways to avoid it.

1. Try talking in person: A face-to-face conversation can do less harm than an SMS fight. Here, in most cases you will say only what you mean and you have chances to correct your side if any misunderstandings occur due to your words.

2. Avoid replying: This will be the best option to stop an SMS fight. If the person is not getting your reply, chances are more that they will call you. Simply give an excuse after answering the call for not replying and initiate a talk to solve the reason of your fight.

3. Delay replying: Delay sending messages if you are compelled into an SMS fight as it says time can heal things. After a time gap, you may realize how stupid you were to think and type those crap. If you take some time to think, the initial emotions may subside and the fight may get lighter.

4. Call and talk:  In case if you find the rage to be uncontrollable and meeting in person is not possible, just call and talk to the person. Things may get better since talking is more expressive than sending an SMS. While talking, it is easy to clear all the points you are up to.

5. Have a bit of humour sense: Having some humour sense is the best way to stop any SMS fight. If it is your dear one on the other side, just try to send a love message or else try a comedy message in response to each fight message.

6. Avoid provocation replies: If you really want to stop an SMS fight, it is important to stop sending provocative replies. It is easy to ruin a good relationship through an SMS fight as the time and effort required to convert your feelings to very harsh and tough language is more.

Abstain from fights through SMS and avoid unnecessary headaches.

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